Reply to Is my friend a b**** or am I?

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "Is my friend a b**** or am I?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I agree that it's pretty normal for her not to want to bring her new guy around to meet your LO.  BUT, what sucks is that she hasn't made an effort to come down and visit and spend time with you, for you.  That is what would signal that maybe the friendship isn't what it used to be....

I have a sibling who has made a similar (lack of) effort to visit me and my now 7 month old son.  One visit down from NYC when he was 6 weeks old.  That's it.  I DO hold it against her, and while I understand that she's single and doesn't have kids of her own, I am her sister, this is her nephew, she sucks.  My out of town friends have made a larger effort than that.[/quote]

But this assumes that you have made an effort to visit them similar to the effort you are expecting from them.  Becoming a parent doesn't mean that others should visit you while you stay at home.  If you stay at home, then expect others to do the same.  It sounds like the OP made one visit in a year.  It seems like she should give it a little more time before she declares the friendship uneven.   [/quote]\

I disagree.  A FTM with a new baby should NOT have to make the same effort as her single, without children, friends to travel.  Are you serious?  Selfish.[/quote]

I don't think its selfish.  I also don't think that a FTM has to travel out of town to visit her friends. I know that I didn't do this when I had young children.  I do think that a FTM (or anyone, for that matter) who doesn't travel out of town to visit friends can't then be mad at those friends for not visiting.  Single, childless people do have a greater responsibility to the friendship to travel.  If traveling is going to be curtailed for a few years, it is acceptable that it is curtailed on both sides. [/quote]

Sure, it's "acceptable", if you don't want to see your friends for a few years....which isn't really acceptable at all if you want to maintain a friendship.  When I didn't have children, I made an effort to go visit my friends BECAUSE I knew it would be easier for me than them to travel.  Pretty inconsiderate not to see that and act accordingly. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics