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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've heard it said before that people from other countries cannot believe how decoupled families are here.  In many cultures, it's unheard of for people to live in different neighborhoods let along thousands of miles away in a different state.  Think about how many cultures have many generations sharing the same house.  Here in the US with many Asian families in particular, notice how many multi-generational families travel together.

There are so many benefits.  No one needs to go into a nursing home, babysitters aren't needed.  Younger generation learns traditions and history from the older.  Shared costs.

My grandparents watched me a lot when I was younger and I got to know them in a way I never would have if I only saw them a couple times per year.

Seriously people, family is everything.  What are we all doing?[/quote]

OP again.  This, all this.  The relationship I had with my grandparents growing up is to this day one of my most treasured.  I loved my grandma and grandpa so much and many of my happiest childhood moments involved spending weekends with them.  I can't stand the idea of my children not having that same relationship with our parents.  And since I was raised where the whole family takes care of the kids, the idea of putting my child in daycare really weirds me out (no offense to people who have chosen or had to choose daycare).

[quote=Anonymous]OP: I have the same situation and my kids are older. I have found that having no family close to you makes you stronger as a family unit. FWIW. I have family who live right around us and they are so obnoxious and nasty that we never see them. It seems like your family values are strong. I think that your kids are very lucky to have you as parents.[/quote]

Aw shucks.  Thanks.  :oops: .  No kids yet, but we were planning on TTC later this year and I'm just really rethinking what my priorities have been.

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I luckily grew up in a mid-sized city that has the benefits of DC in a smaller, less stressful package. So I look forward to moving back there, among family and friends. Nothing is more important than that. It happens at different times, but eventually most realize that this "important career" thing that we all do here is not really as important as we think it is. Life moves so quickly here and before you know it, 20 years go by and all you've done is work. Nothing can replace extended family birthdays, showers, weddings, weekend away at a rental, or just stopping over for dinner. [/quote]

Again, I agree.  I am very happy that I managed to travel, pick up a couple degrees, and start a good career.  But when I think of what really matters, it's none of those things.  And I can use those things to live closer to home.  Not close, because as I mentioned previously, there are no job opportunities there, but closer so that we're just a little daytrip away.[/quote]

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