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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly OP, you sound like an asshole. You work a lot and like it. Fine. Then you should happily use the money you earn to hire a sitter and stop complaining. There is really nothing to complain about here. DH works outside of the home and also helps with the kid.[/quote]

Op: why does he not help out with the admin? He gets all the fun stuff of childcare and I get all the crappy one. Laundry, meal prep, doctor appointments, buying clothes, finding daycare, finding classes, etc. [/quote]

You guys should sit down and make a division of labor sheet. Tasks that require admin and research are also time consuming. Especially when you have young children.

It’s a stressful time in life, OP. Many dual working couples go through this transition. It feels like the other person is competing with you for a scarce resource. Just keep in mind you are on the same team, and the workload has just quadrupled so you need to game this out together. I would definitely talk to him about getting more PT help, divvying up all the required tasks in whatever way you consider fair, and taking into account that such tasks involve research and planning. Researching when we need to start potty training or which preschool to use was not my husband’s strong suit. He took on more routine tasks, such as shopping, cooking, laundry, and time with kids.[/quote]

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