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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly OP you work too much.

I'm the higher earner in my household (by a hair) and neither my DH nor I work that many hours a week, except in rare circumstances - major project deadline, etc.

You need to prioritize your marriage and your self-care.

You need to have another conversation about admin stuff and lay out the explicit list of things you want him to do and say that's part of being a primary caregiver. Or hire it out (part-time nanny, etc.)[/quote]

Op: he does not want to do them because he wants to relax. He has 6-7 hours without kids both days during the weekend. And 3 hours every day of the week when he does not do childcare not chores. How is that not enough! [/quote]

I think your husband is just not cut out to be what you want, OP. My husband and I never had much time to ourselves when our kids were little. We both work and we were both very hands on. My husband did most of the drop off pick ups and all the cooking, plus more.

Yes it was a stressful time. Yes you can throw money at the problem. And yes your husband is just not stepping up. The reality is he doesn’t want to be doing as much caregiving as he said previously and as you want.[/quote]

HOW is he not stepping up when he does the weekday childcare duties and she doesn’t get home until 9?[/quote]

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