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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister and her husband are fostering a 4yo. They hope to adopt, but it is complicated. There is still some visitation with the maternal grandparents, and the paternity of the father has never been determined. If a father is found and confirmed, he would have rights. Ultimately, they do hope to adopt.

I have a dear friend whose family fostered a teenager who knew the whole time that their goal was to give her a safe and loving home until she was 18, and from there they helped her (to an extent) get a job, go to a community college, and get a place to live. They spend holidays together, etc., but I do not believe she expects to be in their will. They met and kind of had a shared goal that they would be a safe and loving influence in her life, but not her parents. [/quote]

Your friends are kinda terrible not to give that child a real family.[/quote]

They met at church and got to know the girl. They are not well-off. From the beginning, it was understood that they could not provide a college education and an inheritance for a third child. I hardly think it's "terrible" that an older couple with modest means was able to provide a caring and safe home for someone who had suffered abuse in previous foster situations. What have YOU directly done to change the life of a tween or teen who isn't related to you, long-term, I'd like to know? And no, writing the occasional check or giving an angel tree gift doesn't count.[/quote]

NP, but wow. Not provide an inheritance for a third child??? Who says that?[/quote]

People who want to be transparent and honest about what they can and cannot provide to someone they are trying to help.[/quote]

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