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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Personally, I think your sister has a point.  Why DO both you and your husband feel the need to have "high paying demanding jobs" while you still have kids around?  You say you aren't doing it just for the money, so why, then?  Why is it so critically important that you both have "high paying demanding jobs" as your first priority, with family time being second?

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We ARE doing it for the money 100% - but not for fancy clothes and art and ridiculous restaurants. its to bank it to buy ourselves full flexibility later.  my husband may be missing dinners now - but when the kids are teens we'll be able to spend the whole summer with them hiking through colorado with them (or whatever we feel like) vs a one week vacation at ocean city.  I may get home just in time for dinner now, but when they're preteens i can be the one doing all drop offs and pickups to not miss any problems that may be brewing etc.  We are sacrificing some family time now for the ability to have so much flexibility in 10 years.  Not saying that's a better or worse choice than anyone else for a family, its just ours[/quote]

There are lots of "ifs" and "whens" and suppositions in your response.  Trust me -- when your kids are teenagers they're not going to want to spend all summer hiking Colorado with you.  They're going to want to be with their friends.  That's likely to be the case no matter what, but even more in your situation -- the less you are with them now, the less they're going to want to be with you later because they will have formed closer relationships with others in your absence.  I am afraid you are really in for a very rude awakening.  You can put money in the bank.  You can't put time in the bank.[/quote]

I'm not.  My kids have me from 6am - 8:30am every morning and 5pm - bedtime every night.  The demanding part comes in in that i pick up work after their bedtime and work late into the night instead of having hobbies or downtime.  I have no qualms about the time I spend with my kids even if its less than my sister does.  But also not the point of this post. [/quote]

also there are no "ifs".  The money has been banked, the positions have been achieved (vs hoping for a promition or whatever)....I'll be retiring by the time my oldest is 10 and my husband will be going very part time then.  Unless we are dead, in which case thats a bigger problem. [/quote]

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