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[quote=Anonymous]Family Zoom meeting to get everyone on the same page.

Remind your husband privately that he can’t re-live his 20s through the kid and that you are now past the “telling the kid what to do” stage. And, that having a good adult relationship means supporting his decisions unless they are actually harms (think drugs, not Tufts).  Otherwise, you will end up shut out of the kids life.

Remind your kid that he is an adult and no one can stop him from applying to transfer.  And that if he gets it together enough to transfer and gets in (which not a guarantee for a school like Tufts!j you will consider his proposal to transfer, with things like cost and graduating on time factoring in.

I do think it’s on the kid to deal with the transfer logistics. Step back and see if he wants it enough to make it happen.

I don’t think it’s worth a fight unless and until he is accepted, no matter how good his stats are.

I do think if money don’t an issue, Tufts does a decent job in his major, etc, then it’s your kids college and your kids choice.

The big thing is that at some  point you and DH have to get on the same page about how much you can dictate to an adult kid. Might as well be now.  If he won’t budge and is determined to force an adult to stay at a school he hates, there is a large issue going on, and these control issues will resurface.  It’s  time for some family/marriage counseling while the transfer app goes through. [/quote]

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