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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a complete stranger who obviously has a lot of distance from this, the post title made me laugh.  That is SO dramatic.  I can only imagine the mundane situation it was about too.  [/quote]

OP, this is the thing...as this person mentioned to an outsider it sounds so over the top ridiculous that it is funny. At least for me though every over the top thing mom said to me felt like a knife. Her terrible tone of voice and glare made it all too stabbing and in my case at least mom had this side to her always she just toned it down more perhaps because her brain was healthier or perhaps because dad was still alive to tell her she was being a jerk. So it helped me to post and talk to a therapist and realize how off the rails mom was, how off the rails I was and that I needed more boundaries. You have to save yourself. Get her out of your house. She does not need to absolute best care that exists, she needs the best care she can afford that will not give you a nervous breakdown. She could live a long time getting nastier and nastier so you need to find something sustainable. I find it a lot easier to get a verbal dagger thrown at me when I can say "OK mom, hope you enjoy the rest of your day. I am going to go now" and then when I get home I leave a message for my therapist if needed to set up an appointment or I just do some enjoyable things to distract myself and I move on. Sometimes my husband and I just make fun of the latest jab between ourselves.[/quote]

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