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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why does she specifically need to send a card? Why is a phone call or a text or some other form of communication unacceptable, and only a card will check the box?[/quote]

She did nothing. It’s been weeks. I had to tell her to at least text my DH to offer condolences. She is not pondering what to do. I’ve talked to her twice since and she doesn’t even ask how anyone is. No offer to attend funeral or watch kids. Nothing. She just told me about the trips she’s planning for next year. This is not a one off thing with her, and that’s what is making me consider it being unforgivable. DH and I have been together for 20 years. She saw my ILs annually at holidays and birthdays. It’s not like she didn’t know them. 
I’m just feeling sad for my DH and like I need to stand up for him. If it was my mother who died and my MIL did nothing to show any sort of support I feel like DCUM would justify me cutting her off. [/quote]

Did she not like your MIL?[/quote]

They were competitive over the grandkids. ILs lived closer so we’d see them probably a time or so more per year. My mom is a very unlikeable person. She doesn’t have any friends besides her siblings. My therapist told me that in some families the siblings are more important to a person than their own spouse or children. This is how my mom is. It just hurts but I suppose to need to accept it and her limitations. Be cordial but not really have a relationship. [/quote]

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