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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you say "exclusive" -- do you mean he's not sleeping with anyone else?  That he needs 7-10 days to commit to that?  If so, that's really weird IMO.  If he was really into you, he'd drop everything and commit to you.  
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OP actually said "We had the talk to define the relationship, and both agreed that we want to be in a committed relationship [u]and boyfriend/girlfriend[/u]."  If he's currently dating other women I can see not feeling comfortable calling himself "Larla's boyfriend" until those other women know he's not going to see them anymore.  [/quote]

PP here.  I get that maybe he doesn't want to tell the world about Bf/GF status.  But why isn't he telling her he's not going to be physically intimate with these other women RIGHT NOW.  I can see saying that he wants to have break up conversations, but why does that need 7-10 days to be exclusive?  Maybe I am thinking of exclusivity the wrong way, but it means monogamous to me.[/quote]

This. Maybe the conversation is not being presented well by OP. Maybe what she is actually upset about is that it will take so long. Maybe what she is being asked is not to update her relationship status and tell all her friends that they're exclusive for the 7-10 days it will take him to tell other people directly so they don't find out on social media. Either way, it is reasonable to expect a person to behave as though they are exclusive before they start telling the world about the relationship. In OP's position, I would only be comfortable with the in person delayed breakups if he committed to a monogamous relationship with me effective immediately. If he is trying to keep open the door for some breakup sex with other people before committing to me, he is not ready for a relationship and I'm not interested in sticking around to help him work it out.[/quote]

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