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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you say "exclusive" -- do you mean he's not sleeping with anyone else?  That he needs 7-10 days to commit to that?  If so, that's really weird IMO.  If he was really into you, he'd drop everything and commit to you.  
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OP actually said "We had the talk to define the relationship, and both agreed that we want to be in a committed relationship [u]and boyfriend/girlfriend[/u]."  If he's currently dating other women I can see not feeling comfortable calling himself "Larla's boyfriend" until those other women know he's not going to see them anymore.  [/quote]

But WHY? That's what I don't understand. He's been seeing multiple women. At some point, he was going to pick one of them and stop seeing the others. Is the idea that he needs some kind of fast or clean slate with every single woman he's been dating before he can commit to his relationship with the OP? I get that there would be some awkwardness at the beginning of these breakup dates he has planned where the women think it's a romantic date and maybe kiss him and then he breaks up with them. There's no way for those conversations to not be awkward on some level. But t[b]hat doesn't mean that he should be able to just go to them, kiss back, pretend it's a date, and then end things with them at some point before calling it a night. [/b]He can commit to OP now and tell the women that he's not available anymore. It doesn't have to go the opposite way.[/quote]

Literally the only thing we know about this guy is that he's honest to a fault, so this is a leap.  [i]WHY [/i]I wouldn't want to call myself Larla's boyfriend while two other women think I'm seeing them is extremely obvious to me, but everything about this thread has been educational in terms of what other people think is an okay way to behave.  B[b]reak up by text or you're a dog![/quote][/b]

DP here.  That's a bit dramatic.  Not everyone needs or wants a sit down break up for a non-monogamous, non-exclusive relationship.  It seems a bit needy to me IMO, and it's not something I'd need for myself if I were those women.  I certainly don't want to be ghosted, but I don't need a face to face reconciliation for a casual dating situation.  [/quote]

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