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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you for the replies. I'm sorry I was gone so long -- Mondays are very busy for me and I honestly had forgotten about this thread until now.

Lots to think about. I know I over-focus on appearance. This has always been true. I also really worry that I might have messed up my metabolism with my old dieting and unhealthy relationship with both diet and exercise.

Also, just to be clear: I already exercise and watch what I eat. I wouldn't say I'm aggressively trying to lose weight, but I'm not being totally unhealthy. The big issues are alcohol and takeout -- I'd have to cut them way down or eliminate them to lose weight, I think. But these are also things my DH loves sharing with me. If I tried to reduce takeout or stopped having wine or beer with dinner, I think it would annoy him because then he would be having those things on his own. But obviously they don't impact him as much -- he's tall and the kind of guy who even if he did put on a little weight, you barely notice. Whereas I'm barely 5'2" and 10 lbs is very noticeable on me, 20 very obvious, and 30... well, I feel fat right now, basically. But I'm very active! I exercise almost daily, I walk everywhere, bike to work in the summer, etc. I think this is just kind of where my body is settling.

Basically I'm happy from a health perspective with my diet and exercise, I know any changes could actually disrupt my relationship, but I still feel insecure about how I look to DH, and also how I look with him. I honestly feel like people might look at us and think "wow, how on earth did she get him?" He's tall with great hair and a strong jaw, just a handsome middle-aged guy. I look dumpy. I put a lot of effort into my clothes and hair and makeup, but at the end of the day my body is just big, my face is a lot rounder than it used to be. I look heavy. I'm not at all the woman he married.

I'm in therapy, I know I have to work on this stuff. I just see him drooling over certain actresses or models and I know what still turns him on, and I don't think it's me. I know he loves me and thinks I'm a good person and a good mom. But I think the spark is dying and I kind of don't blame him.[/quote]

Op, how old are you all? This is just so, so immature I’m wondering. You have very young kids, right? Look, you’re going to get so much busier and hectic you won’t have time for this nonsense. Get strong, eat healthy and give the man a blow job. Stop overthinking this. You think your husband is some amazing hot catch. Good. Others likely don’t. He chose you. Now, move along. [/quote]

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