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[quote=Anonymous]OP,

I am so sorry that your daughter is struggling. Many posters here have provided good suggestions for safe-proofing your house.

But while this advice addresses the immediate pragmatics of preventing your daughter from self-harm, it might help to consider the long view as well, to which you have already alluded in noting what is likely to come.

BPD reflects abnormalities in brain structure and function. BPD cannot, therefore, be cured. As a cluster B personality disorder, it is a chronic condition that might be managed, but only if the person with it is willing to work hard through years of therapy (which most with BPD are not).

Given that your daughter's future is ultimately dependent on her choices and not on yours which is to say that there is only so much control you have over this situation, 
I would encourage you not to feel guilty about limiting the extent to which your daughter's needs dictate the tenor and rituals of your family's life. Safe-proof and fund therapy as you must, but don't feel bad about seeking joy where you can find it by prioritizing your relationships with your other children who presumably are capable, adjusting for age-appropriateness, of maintaining healthy connections with others. Their needs are no less important than your daughter's; the nurturing you give them ultimately will have a positive impact in terms of their ability to function as stable, healthy adults; and, just as importantly, demonstrating through your nurture and attention that they are no less important than their sister will likely result in a close relationship with you when they are adults.

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