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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Question, OP.  If you were a regular who wasn’t “generally attractive,” would you think you were less entitled to this man’s attention?[/quote]
I don’t think I’m entitled to anyone’s attention, but I think it’s odd to blankly stare at someone you see on the daily when they say hello to you. I guess I just wonder what his issue is with me that he doesn’t have with other people, men and women, who he interacts with. It comes off as rude and maybe this makes me insecure, also a little hurtful. When I started working out over a year ago I was dealing with a lot of body image stuff and an eating disorder, so this just stings a little, and I can’t explain why. [/quote]

But what does you being “generally attractive” have to do with it?  Would you interpret his behavior any differently if you weren’t “generally attractive”?  You are the one who decided to include that in your post so presumably you felt it was relevant to the situation.[/quote]
I just figured someone would ask if I was ugly, so I was covering all bases. Not smoking hot, not a dog, either. [/quote]

I don’t buy that.  I think you have some pretty deep insecurities about your appearance (and your worth as a person) and this guy ignoring you is causing them to go into overdrive because you’re questioning your attractiveness and therefore your worth as a person.[/quote]
Another nail on the head. You’re so right. It’s exactly this too. It may sound conceited, but when I was overweight, I was invisible, for years. Then I lost weight and was suddenly noticed. I had a sort of imposter syndrome thing happening for a long time. This is the first person since I lost all my weight who makes me feel invisible again. And it never even started as a romantic thing. I was just being polite! As someone else put it earlier, now it’s MY turn not to give HIM that satisfaction.

I will ignore him completely from now on. Thanks everyone, I feel very enlightened. I’m actually really glad I asked this question because it all makes sense now. I appreciate you.[/quote]

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