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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP again.

I wish I had a closer bond with my remaining relatives in my hometown. As I mentioned before, they live a 6 to 7 hour drive away, except for some cousins who live overseas.

I visit my hometown about every 3 to 4 months and I always try and meet up with relatives and old friends there.
 
When I'm there I usually see my aunts and uncles and also an elderly cousin of my late father. She's 90 and she lives in a care home now. 
She lost her 93-year old husband to Covid last year and she couldn't live at home on her own anymore because she's frail and not very mobile. 
She and her late husband were childless and she's feeling very lonely now. They'd been married for 65 years.

I don't want to end up like her. I wish I had a closer bond with my cousins and their kids. My cousins are all younger than me and they never get in touch with me and my husband. If I don't reach out first I never from them.

It almost feels like my extended family have forgotten about me since my parents died 14 and 23 years ago. I'm always the one to initiate contact. Is this normal?

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If you were not close before, then yes, it's normal.  They don't feel close to you, for one thing, and for another, you are older than they are.  They probably don't feel they have much in common with  you as "friends".

IMO, you are looking for familial connections as you are an only.  You will have to build your own family with friends of your own age who are in the same boat as you are in.[/quote]

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