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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I feel like it is kind of ageist[/b] to say that you want friends of all ages and that's why you won't move into a 55+ community.

First of all, there will be a wide range of ages from 55 up to people in their 80s.

And second of all, take a cold hard honest look at yourself. When have you ever had a wide group of friends of people of all different ages? As a teen? A college student? In your thirties? I bet you have always preferred to socialize with people in your age group. I say that b/c know I have and that most people have.

You will be getting old. Older people will be your peers. You need to come too terms with that. That doesn't mean you can't have friends who are different ages, but if you don't now, why do you think you'll be developing that later in life?

Honestly, you sound like a lonely person who has not really developed a community. This is not a criticism, because I think many, many aging Americans find themselves in the same situation. But social skills are like muscles and you need to exercise them and take care of them to have them in the long run.

Honestly a 55+ community is a great choice for you, but if you don't like it here is my big tip: join a faith community.

Temple, church, whatever. If you are not a believer, go to the Unitarians. Start contributing to this faith community through your time, talents and energy and you will find yourself with a caring community within a year. Feed the friendships you make, but don't put pressure on them to fulfill you. As Woody Allen said, showing up is 80 percent of life.

If the idea of joining something, of seeing people on the regular, of being obligated to do good works rankles you and you'd prefer to spend the weekends with your DH watching Netflix then I have news for you, you will have a very lonely old age.

You need to put in the work now to see the benefits later.

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There is some good advice here, but the bolded is idiotic.  [/quote]

It’s not Idiotic.  I am was responding to the sense I got that the OP dislikes older people and does not want to be around them.  [/quote]

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