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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, ignore the troll detectives and haters. I think it takes a lot of self awareness and humility to admit your jealousy and angst. And also to be rational enough to realize it’s irrational.

This is not about money or class, or even envy. It’s about kindness, regret over circumstances you have no control over, and a twist of role reversal.

Kindness: you were kind to her regardless of her station in life or upbringing. You were raised to believe it was charitable to be kind to everyone, including those lower than you. While this was well intentioned, it was actually a very condescending instinct that was instilled in you. Be “kind” to everyone, including those so far beneath you.

Regret: if you are the OP of the other post, you’ve got a shit ton of designer baggage. That silver spoon you were fed with has tarnished, through no fault of your own. Your resentment over your parents’ irresponsibly is understandable. They had everything at their fingertips and they screwed it up. But it was never your “everything” to assume indefinitely. It’s sucks. But you didn’t earn it, it was never yours. Their wealth afforded you massive temporary privileges. Some of which, you will carry with you forever (education, experiences, exposure, etc.). So it’s like losing found money.

Role reversal: see above for my analysis on kindness.

I hope this response doesn’t come off too harsh, because I genuinely feel for you OP. It’s a crappy situation. But it’s largely out of your control. Focus on not equating money with worth. Is she kind to you? Are their non-material ways to find common ground?

I really don’t have any constructive advice for you, OP. But I completely understand your feelings. You’re not a bad person for feeling them. [/quote]

Some feelings are bad and shameful. OP should be ashamed of her jealousy, snobbery, inability to be happy for her family, and ingratitude. Those feelings are nothing to be proud of, celebrated, or patted on the back for. What is wrong with you? The only good thing is she's aware of it. Now she needs to work on being a better person and not a loathsome green eyed monster.[/quote]

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