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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to me. About a year ago, I made plans to go on a walk with a long time friend (we weren't going to meet indoors due to the pandemic). Then prior to our meeting up, I found out my parents had COVID. I texted my friend to tell her. The next day she said she had to cancel and would call me later. (My parents lived across country so there wasn't a concern that I had gotten COVID from them.) A couple weeks later, my mom died. I never heard from my friend, not even "I'm sorry for your loss" on Facebook. Nothing. Then a couple months later she started commenting on my Facebook posts like nothing had happened. It was SUPER WEIRD. This is a friend who I have had for 30 years!

I'm going to be honest, I haven't gotten over it. I still exchange a superficial text with her once in a while but my opinion of her has fundamentally changed.[/quote]

This right here. And you don’t have to get over it.

I am the survivor of a traumatic event that was extensively publicized in my community, and the way other people did (and especially didn’t) acknowledge it fundamentally changed those relationships and how I saw them as people. Sorry OP - you are not alone. Folks, there are some situations where “I also had a lot going on” or “It was awkward and I didn’t know what to do” is not going to work, ever. OP, I can tell you that you WILL get to a place where it no longer feels like a loss but a good riddance, and the absence of this person will allow room for better people to fill up your time.  [/quote]

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