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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I kind of agree with the PP who resents having to ask for sex.  (I assume what you mean is "beg" and not actually make clear that you want sex, which you should be doing.) I am a DW with a very healthy sex drive, and my DH and I had sex maybe five times in the last two years.  Mind you, during that time I have been pregnant and then nursing but still horny as hell.  I have been married for 2 1/2 years and my sex life consists mostly of masturbation.

My husband has been diagnosed with borderline low testosterone. We have no insurance now, and even when we did, it doesn't cover the drugs/cream, which come to $200 a month. I used to be understanding of this, but now I'm not. First, where else are you spending $200 a month that you could be spending on drugs that would make me, your wife, happy? Why is that other purpose more important than my happiness? Secondly, even if your penis is taking a break, you're typing and talking at work all day long, so I know for a fact that your fingers and tongue are in good working order, and I need them more than I need your penis. Thirdly, there have been times in the past when my DH wanted it and I didn't (sleepy, period etc.) and I have always accommodated him by having sex anyway, or giving him oral because his happiness is important to me.

See, I think that when you marry someone and enter into a monogamous, legal bond, you should no longer have the right to say no to sex (for a long period of time, not occasionally), because you are de facto controlling the sex life of another human being. I am so angry and resentful that my husband decided, de facto, that my life will be free of sex from now on, without discussing this with me or at least bloody apologizing that he can't hack it now. If the roles were reversed, and I was rejecting him for two years, everyone, everyone in this society would have said to him, go ahead, get a piece on the side. I am married.  Sex should be available on demand. On tap. And it isn't. It's like having a horrible boyfriend without the option to break up.

No one should be married and begging for sex. Sex in marriage is a human right. [/quote]

Agree with you, you sound frustrated beyond belief. This is how many men feel everyday - 24/7. Welcome to the club.[/quote]

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