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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is already a thread on this. So how is this just the man’s fault? It seems to be two consenting adults. What did he trick helpless woman intoan affair? [/quote]

Because she was his subordinate.

I’m not against coworkers dating, but anytime there’s a power difference, there’s room for problems. The subordinate could get or expect special favors, and there’s a long history of those in power using their position to demand sexual favors. Relationships always need to be disclosed to HR to make sure there’s no conflict and to protect both parties.

It also reflects poorly on the university. People are going to be upset their kids’ tuition is paying for a creep to have an affair. [/quote]

Unless it is specified in your work contract that you cannot have a personal relationship with coworker, I don’t see how this matters.  Unless it is proven in correspondence he is leveraging his position and their relationship to influence her at work[/quote]

Most companies have rules regarding relationships because they usually just cause a ton of drama and problems.

Like this case, someone could lead their AP on that they’re going to leave the spouse. Then when they don’t and the AP gets upset, AP could potentially dig up something that does make it sound like they were getting favors or being coerced. And now there’s a potential lawsuit, at the very least money will be spent on attorney’s fees.

Or the cheated-on spouse can cause trouble.

Or someone could be sleeping with multiple people in the workplace and cause drama. I’ve seen that happen, it got bad when an STD got passed around.

You’ve also got scorned lovers who, while technically nothing “wrong” was done, then seek vengeance in the workplace by sabatoging the other person or filing nonstop complaints against them or otherwise making it a hostile, unpleasant work environment.

People also tend to HATE cheating men in positions of power, look what happened to Bill Clinton. Consensual but caused a ton of trouble and cost lots of money. Public perception is important.

The military has VERY strict policies around affairs and not being involved at all, because they know the problems it causes.

In my case, I did date a superior and while we did everything right, it caused so much trouble with other people that we split up because it was easier than dealing with the drama.

HR does what they can to protect the company. They don’t care about people getting laid, meeting their soulmate, whatever. The university likely did have a clause about relationships, and he screwed up by not reporting it. Probably did not report it because he knew an affair would not be approved and would cause him to be dismissed.[/quote]

The military yes.  But I have never seen the same rules or expectations in civilian work place.  [b]As university president, subordinate could be literally any employee. [/b] Unless he was getting her hired into positions she didn’t qualify for or authorizing unwarranted pay raises or budget increases for her dept, I don’t see how him having an affair with her is grounds for fire him- unless that is solely based on the work email usage[/quote]

And with higher positions comes higher standards and expectations. If you want to be able to screw anyone that walks by, choose a job that won't be affected by it.

Plus it all comes down the money. There's usually an investigation, which costs money. People can sue. Clients, donors, anyone who pays can decide to take their money elsewhere because they don't approve of a man having an affair or sleeping with a subordinate. Way easier and cheaper to just fire them and find a replacement. [/quote]

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