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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also had a “sloth laying around”. It turns out my DH had a serious alcohol problem.[/quote]

DH does drink every night. IPAs. How do I figure out if it’s a problem though? I’m upstairs asleep shortly after the kids… he does his late night couch routine alone.
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OP, as a person with a drinking problem (now in a good, if precarious place)...

A craft beer like an IPA is only 1 Standard Alcoholic Drink very rarely. That's 12 oz @ 5% ABV.

Almost all IPAs and such are (apiece) at least 1.25 drinks (12 oz @ 6.25%), most are 1.5+ drinks, and some more than 2 drinks apiece (16 oz tallboy @ 8% ABV is more than 2 Standard Alcoholic Drinks).

Basically if your DH is drinking 2 IPAs, that's generally [i]at least[/i] 3 drinks a night, every night, which for a man is "heavy alcohol use" according to NIH and so on-- more than 14 drinks/week. Your DH is drinking at least around 21, or perhaps much more. (And anyone saying it's totally fine, okay, take it up with NIH, Mayo, CDC and the DSM.) Even if he's "fine," he's going to have sleep disturbances and poor sleep quality, "mild" mood issues and so on.

It would be helpful to know just how much he's drinking, but I'm saying that, unless he's Shaq's body double (and even then)-- alcohol is 100% contributing to this dynamic, so do keep that in mind.

Also, I disagree with PP who said he's not crafty enough to hide the recycling, but he might not feel the need to if he's "only" drinking 3-4 IPAs a night (4-8 drinks). A lot of people think that's normal and healthy. It's not.

If you really do want to know, though, and you suspect he's drinking even more than the recycling is telling you, you can check the car, the closet, the big cans/recycling outside for extras, your bank/CC statements for liquor store/grocery runs you don't remember.

But I'd guess he's "only" drinking 25-50 drinks a week (as few as 2-4 IPAs a day). Which DCUM assures me is totally fine.  :roll: [/quote]

Oh. And if he's out of the house 11-7, he could stop at a bar, or even if COVID-cautious, getting something to drink in the car. Ask me how I know.

But he probably isn't. He's probably "only" drinking those 25-50 drinks/week.[/quote]

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