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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't cook.

I'll start by saying, there's a fair amount of sexism in your initial post, though you seem to be aware of it, I think it's worth calling out - are you "fascinated" when a man tells you they don't cook? The mechanics of it are the same.

My husband does all the cooking. He's an excellent cook.

Before I was married, I muddled through, much like so many single men (and I was single a long time, although my other long term relationship was also with a man who cooks). I ate a lot of boxed food, like Mac and cheese, pasta roni (where you just essentially boil water and add the contents of the box), frozen meals, chicken nuggets, sandwiches, etc. I ate out and ordered in a lot. If I was feeling fancy, I'd make shake 'n bake chicken.

I would say its a mix of not enjoying cooking and that I'd rather spend my time elsewhere, and of course now that I'm a couple decades into adulthood, I'd also say I'm not a good cook, but it feels like something I could have learned along the way if I'd cared to. There's also a level of strategic incompetence to it, a technique much more commonly (and effectively!) used by men. If I don't learn to cook, guess what? No one can expect me to cook. &lt;Shrug&gt;. I'll never be roped into cooking for guests I don't want, or making Thanksgiving for 20 people over four days. It's one huge area of household responsibility that will never fall to me. Because I don't know how. Win/win. My husband knows all this, it's not a secret.

I do all the laundry and keeping track of the kids clothes (shopping, hand-me-downs, what fits/what doesn't etc), so I'm not generally useless around the house. And for what it's worth, I have an exceptionally happy marriage that is truly egalitarian, and neither my husband nor I would have it any other way.[/quote]

PP here - and no, I don't feel "judged as a woman" but anyone who honestly feels that way would just make me laugh. I mean, do you feel "judged as a woman" for wearing pants? Come on.

I did have an aunt once, when she found out my (then boyfriend, now husband) cooks, said "Oh, great! Now he can teach you!" to which I replied "[b]You are not understanding how I have solved this problem.[/b] [/quote]

:lol: [/quote]

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