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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i am an adopted child and wonder this

i think i developed differently. i didnt have any traumatic experiences because i was adopted when i was a baby.

i dont know my parents always had the harder time dealing with me. i always felt out of place although its not just my family its the outside world too.

i dont know i just found this thread and decided to coment. [/quote]

I agree. I am Emilee and I am also adopted. I was adopted when I was born. About 3 days after my adoption was final my "sister" was born. I have always noticed that our mom treats us differently. I admit that I have ADD/ADHD but I am able to control it pretty well. The thing is that our mom would treat me differently from my sister who is her biological child. I'd always be the one blamed for everything no matter what it was that happened. Hannah, my sister would always be treated like a princess. She always got what she wanted no matter what it was or how expensive it is. She was always the popular one, the cheerleader, the honor graduate, the perfect angle. As for me, I was always the outcast, the one who struggled in school, and had to work very hard just to even get our mom to be happy enough to get me anything that was expensive or any of that. The few friends I did end up having weren't really "high class" like my mom would want. She always ended up hating who I was friends with just because they didn't wear name brand clothes or nice houses and always told me not to be friends with them. She is always pushing me to be popular, wear certain clothes and all that just so I wouldn't make her and my sister look bad to the rest of the town. Every time I get in trouble I always bring up the fact that she treats my sister better, but she always has the same excuse saying that she get on to Hannah too but I have never seen it to be true. I ask to go out with friends or stay with a friend but she always says no and gives me some silly excuse as to why she is saying no, even if I do get the chance to go out she gives me a curfew of 10 pm and I'm 21 and am perfectly capable of being able to handle myself and being able to stay out late. As for Hannah she can go anywhere and do anything and it doesn't matter what time she comes home. Me and my sister both smoke and drink, but our mom always seems to scream at me for doing it and tells me to stop. I always tell her that my sister does it too and she always says that I'm not talking about her I'm talking you. I have finally gotten to where I'm tired of the difference she makes between us and I've tried to tell her plenty of times and for a few days she'll do better then go right back to the same old path. I don't know what else to do. I've threatened to move out plenty of times but she always finds a way to make me feel bad about it like bringing in the fact that my grandma who means a lot to me would highly disappointed and I have no choice but to stay. I guess I just need some advice or someone that I can talk to about it. I'm willing to listen to anything anyone has to say. [/quote]

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