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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, urgh, that's tough. Think some PPs have good suggestions on thinking of this as a "gift" to them and try to let go as much as possible. Lots of memories for your children and will be a blessing for them when their grandparents pass.

FWIW, my MIL does a variation of this - she dispenses gifts (money/jewelry) that her ILs left to give to her children and wants accolades of gratitude for bestowing them. The first time I witnessed this I was just flabbergasted and mentioned to DH. He had just assumed that's how families handled such things and later said it was odd. Yes, I think there should be gratitude. MIL's role, however, has really been the bank/safe and I just don't get why she thinks her kids should really go over the top in thanking her for the gift that had really been left to them by their grandparents.[/quote]

That stuff was given by their parents to them, they could’ve sold it and used money. I guess being gracious won’t kill you.[/quote]

First, it's not me. Second, of course they all said "wow," "thank you", and all that. Third, she had told them over the years that this would happen, so these are not surprises. Maybe you have to know my MIL but she is not really doing anything here than handing it on - it wasn't necessarily even her money, but from FIL's side of the family who had made a fair amount from real estate sales in the 1920s. She has spent down most of it over the last twenty years except for what was designated for her kids. FIL isn't demanding fealty for it.[/quote]

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