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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Such an interesting thread. This came up in a conversation recently among me and some friends (all same-sex attracted females) 
Our one friend seemed to have experience (or hope?) that physical attraction can grow or appear after getting to know someone. 
My other friend and I have pretty much always either found someone attractive off the bat, or not. We both agreed that initial attraction can fade if while getting to know someone we find something unattractive about their personality or something very incompatible. 
I’ve been with men before, and while I realized later in life that men would never do it for me the way women do, I could NEVER do it with a man I found unattractive or repulsive, no matter how rich or “interesting” he was. Pretty sure the same goes with women. [/quote]

Have you (or your friends) been in long relationships? Do you still have frequent and passionate sex? I have read lesbian relationships have an even steeper drop off in sex than straight couples
 
Point being, while I get that attraction is important and especially at early stages of the relationship, over time most couples dwindle to infrequent to no sex despite early, insatiable attraction. [/quote]

Fair question. Our one friend who thinks it can grow over time has been in a many-years long relationship with another woman which subsequently ended when her partner left for someone else. My other friend has not been in what I would call a long relationship. Since I quit men I only had one relationship with a woman; it lasted about one year, I was still very attracted to her when we broke up. But yes this is something I fear, if I’m ever able to get into a committed LTR with a woman. The more lesbians I meet, the more it seems to be that LTRs are very, very hard to maintain with both partners fully into it. Getting older isn’t helping things either. [/quote]

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