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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry.  BTDT mom here.  You are right that you can't suicide proof your house.  I tried.  Here are a few that my kid did.  Broke our glassware (drinking glasses, dinner plates, and also bathroom mirrors) and used it as a weapon and an instrument of self harm.  Crushed glass once and walked over it both on the feet and handstands and made a bloody mess.  Got glass out of neighbors' recycling bins.  Razor blades.  They are in razors, pencil sharpeners, box cutters, etc.  Storing up medications then overdosing.  Going to CVS and shoplifting Benedryl.  My kid could shoplift in front of my eyes, they got so good at it.  Often they stored items in their school locker and then tried to kill themselves at school.

We used to lock lots of stuff in our cars and then sleep with the keys under our pillows because, yes, otherwise our kid would find the keys and get into the cars.

Honestly, I found it far better to spend money for treatment than to try to figure out how to keep my kid safe.  RTC programs are set up for safety.

Really, I am sorry you are going through this.  I hope your child finds the help she needs.  [/quote]

OP here, I am so sorry for what you have been thru. We are spending money -- loads of it in fact :( -- on therapists, DBT groups, family therapy, psychiatrists etc.

I just don't want to overlook something obvious that in retrospect I feel like an idiot for not doing.

How is your kid doing now?[/quote]

PP here. I know how you feel about not wanting to miss something. I realized how uncreative I was. Anyway, mine is still alive and has finished HS thanks to a really supportive IEP team. There were many hospitalizations and two stints in RTC. (I know about spending everything you have - but if I had missed something or decided not to try because finances and they died, I don’t think I could have lived with myself). They are working now and trying to figure out the future and how to have a satisfying life in the present.

It really is a struggle though. There are drugs to self medicate and a lot of ups and downs. I’m still often on edge and treatment is still expensive because what’s working isn’t covered by insurance and I’m not willing to give it up. I am hoping with age and maturity they find their place in this world and peacewith whatever they may be. [/quote]

Good luck to you and your child.  I am so proud that you were able to get them thru high school. A lot of these issues do sort out with maturity and time, that is the best case scenario.

I am at the beginning of this roller coaster and terrified. I know there will probably be other attempts in the future and quite possibly drugs/sex issues. She has been DX with BPD and my heart is breaking.

To the people who mentioned social media, I looked at her Tiktok acct and it is horrifying. Not what she posts, I follow her and it is just innocuous stuff. But the accounts she was following were all glamorizing mental illness and suicidal ideation. Just awful stuff. So we will be banning social media when she gets out of the psych hospital.

I also feel so terribly for her siblings who have been dealing with this, and will have their lives altered by of this.[/quote]

FYI there is a wonderful facebook group called Parents with Children with Bordeline Personality Disorder that has saved my life. [/quote]

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