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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They may be aware but since you are acting like everything is normal they follow in your lead or they may be clueless on what's happening especially if your dh doesn't tell them.

From a mil perspective when my dd and her partner were having issues we didn't get involved until we had to and sat down and talked to both of them. We tried to go on like usually especially with our sil since he didn't like to open up to us about the issues until we mentioned it.

If you don't want to pretend then don't and just be polite to your inlaws and mention that at this moment you and dh are not in a good place and you need some space from hosting them. Just keep in mind that it's not there fault and they are trying to probably keep the peace and stability between you and them.[/quote]

It would be a safe bet that most non-overly enmeshed parents might have the same response. They are likely aware of troubles, but are being Switzerland in their actions and words so as not to take sides/create additional drama. A lot of people might prefer this as opposed to lots and lots of melodrama coming from the parents/in-laws. Sometimes you just have to let your adult kids and their spouses handle their own lives.[/quote]

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