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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get them to obey the first time. The reason parents yell is that their children don’t listen the first three or ten times they are instructed to do something. Pick the most offensive behavior and work on that for a day. Say: Larlo, let’s practice turning off your Switch the first time Mama tells you to. Then practice it, literally. Every time Larlo does it right, clap and hug him. Repeat for every offensive behavior and eventually you won’t ever raise your voice.[/quote]

There are a lot of good suggestions here but this one is particularly good.  A lot of frustration and yelling comes from the dynamic where kids get many, many chances to comply. Their natural reaction is to keep ignoring.  You need to break this cycle.  But it will be slow going. [/quote]

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This is possibly the worst suggestion. You're expecting a child, biologically incapable of impulse control, to mange their emotions yet not hold the adult to the same standard?

And not for nothing, I don't want my daughters to blindly accept and comply with whatever directives they're given. I want them to recognize their autonomy and learn to think and make decisions for themselves. [/quote]
Of course I hold adults to the same standard. Does your boss plead with you ten times to submit your work?

All of early childhood is learning impulse control. Starting at birth, infants are learning to control their bodies; then crawl, walk, feed themselves, tie their shoes. Parents who do not make self-control the primary discipline practiced by their young children are doing them an incredible disservice that will follow them their entire lives. A child who will control their voice when they are asked to be quiet at the library will be miles ahead the 20 other children whose mothers follow them around uselessly pleading with them to Make Good Choices. [/quote]

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