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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sure, not everyone regrets it.  But here's the thing, OP and defensive divorced people, that you need to understand.  Divorced and remarried parents are not reliable narrators.  And in these kinds of families, people actively deceive themselves and each other about their true feelings.  People don't like to admit, even to themselves, that their choices haven't worked out or that their children and their partner don't get along.  And if I were a step-parent (which I hope never to do) I'd probably pretend to be happier than I actually was because the alternative would be a lot of drama.  I'm an ACOD and I pretend to be fine with my parents' new partners because that's easiest for me.  But I actually think they both are a pain and bring lots of problems into the family, and I don't think they feel any better about me.  We're all pretending for the sake of the person we love, who wants to have all of us in their lives.

So, OP and others, listen to us ACOD.  We've had a front-row seat in all of this.  Yes it sometimes works out okay if everyone tries really hard and the family has some money and some good luck.  But these kinds of families are a higher level of difficulty and they are fragile.  When they're hard, they're really hard-- and hardship can pop up at anytime even when the stepchildren are adults.  Listen to us ACOD who tell you that even in the best-case scenario, when everyone genuinely tries and is kind, is still pretty unappealing after you've seen it up close.[/quote]

This x1,000. Same for every ACOD I know. [/quote]

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