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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop trying to force the cousin to play with your son. That’s too big of an age gap and the nephew isn’t interested. Entertain your own kid.[/quote]

I explained bug kids sometimes don’t like to play with younger kids.  He’s fine with that.  He’s resourceful and actually calls his same-age cousin from DH’s side of the family and they play online together.  It’s the purposeful rejection that hurts DS, like they will both be in the cousin’s room on their own devices and nephew will pull out headphones to avoid interaction. [/quote]

When my 10 year old does something like that to his younger brother, I tell younger DS to go find something to else do to and to give his brother some space. My kids have a ton of close-in age neighborhood friends and I see this dynamic play out with all of them. I tell them that no one is required to play with anyone else but all must be respectful and kind (eg, you dont leave out one kid if group play is happening). OP, your nephew seems like a typical 10 year old and you are foisting on him an unfair level of responsibility for engaging and entertaining your son. It isn't unkind if your nephew isn't interested in playing with your son and it is developmentally appropriate (albeit perhaps something to redirect) for the nephew to highlight that he may be better than his cousin at certain activities. I know it can be difficult these days but you and your son would benefit greatly from having a group of friends for him to play with and for you to observe and learn from.[/quote]

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