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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It was very kind of them all to come to the service. Not all inlaws are that  considerate.

Ask your husband to store his photo away in a closet. a
And try to forget about it. If it were me, I would only say something to the inlaws if they asked why you aren't displaying the photo. I'd start with explaining that the photo only reminds you of your mother's death. If they push back or act defensive, "Well Jane, what did you expect? I associate that day with mourning, not a happy family photo op." [/quote]

Just because it was a funeral doesn't mean that people cannot be happy about other things.  There should be laughter and smiles just as there will be tears and sadness.  It is all part of life and death.[/quote]

There’s one like you (above) in every crowd. Wait until you lose someone close to you. [/quote]

Sweetie, I am 10:46, the woman who has buried a husband and two children.  If you cannot understand that life goes on and that you will need to be able to smile again one day then you might as well crawl into the grave with your dead.

I imagine the only reason why OP knew the picture was taken during the funeral reception was because she recognized the clothing that the people were wearing or perhaps she recognized the background like someone else pointed out.  Either way, it isn't like this family planted themselves on the grave of OP's mom, started dancing and took a picture.  It sounds like they saw they were all together and they took a family photo.

I think that OP's reaction is over the top.  OP needs to change her grief therapy strategy (she acknowledges on page 2 that she is "in" grief therapy) because whatever she is doing isn't working well for her.  I know many of you mean well but validating blindly as you are doesn't help OP address her grief in a positive and productive way.[/quote]

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