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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my mom is JUST LIKE THIS. And has been for years. She hated that I wore form fitting clothes for my teens and 20s, and that I continue to wear on trend and sometimes sexy clothes in my 30s and 40s. And like you, I'm in great shape (size 0 or 2) and enjoy fashion. She also doesn't think I should color my hair or wear it long (she thinks I should get a practical short cut), wear jewelry or makeup, etc.

It's ALL about her. She is overweight and uncomfortable with her body. She was raised by a super religious mother who taught her to feel shame and guilt about her body and she projects that on to me. I feel bad for her and I encourage her to wear clothes that are comfortable for her, but I don't do what she tells me. I try to just ignore her but I will admit that occasionally I wear something that I know she'll hate just to sort of remind her I can. It is a little petty but it also just helps me mentally to resist her pushing.

That said... I actually don't hate all the Soft Surroundings stuff? I mean most of it I wouldn't buy and I don't like how any of it is styled, but a few of the dresses and skirts I could see fitting into my closet. I do like knit dresses, but I tend to wear them belted and with heeled boots and great jewelry, not loose and draped with a scarf, lol.

When I turned 40 my mom gave me a gift card to J.Jill and I was so annoyed. Luckily they sell shoes and I found a couple pairs of Superga sneakers to buy.[/quote]

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