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[quote=Anonymous]Women not only do more but we are often the driving force behind our husband doing things too, and making sure our DHs are contributing is a massive burden that men almost never carry.

For instance, during the holidays I make sure my DH buys the kids done gifts himself, cooks certain meals, plans and participates in certain events, helps clean the house, and spends quality time with each kid. Without my effort, he’d do about 10% of this. He’d say it’s because he just doesn’t value it as much as I do, and he’d be right.

But what he may not understand is that I’m not really doing it for me. I like cleaning, I’m happy with takeout, I’m excellent and efficient at selecting, buying, and wrapping gifts. I could do the whole holiday myself, since I “value” it, and it would honestly be easier than pushing him to participate. But I do it for the kids, because I know it’s important for them to have two engaged, interested parents. So I work to make sure my DH is engaged. It’s exhausting— his desire to just check out and play video games is strong. And I know nagging doesn’t work so I have to do for him what I do for my kids— properly incentivize. It’s hard.

But the end result is a functional family and strong bonds between him and his kids. None of them even understand I’m doing this.

Anyway, don’t try to tell me men and women do the same amount. My DH has never had to encourage me to spend time with my kids instead of staring at a screen, and he certainly doesn’t make effort to plan events I will enjoy specifically to ensure I stay engaged and have reasons to interact with the kids. I don’t need him to! Come on.[/quote]

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