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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have really polarized opinions about Covid. Sounds like everyone else is on the same page and you are at the other end of the spectrum. You feel disregarded. But I bet they do too. You think you are right and I bet they do too. You want them to pick you and they probably want you to pick them. In other words you’re both doing the same thing and feeling the same way. [/quote]

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OP here. It’s not about who’s right. I respect their different approach. It’s just my brother’s unwillingness to ever compromise and my parents enabling it. They already dictated the day, time, and place. They didn’t listen to my preferences. This is an ongoing pattern for most holidays - my brother sets the conditions.

When I care about someone and want to see them, I try to respect and accommodate their concerns within reason. Even if I think it’s unnecessary or stupid.

Also, my kids are always masked at school and indoor playdates. So the risk from the unmasked family gathering is not the same. I’m not saying my approach is better, just that I wish my family cared enough about me to take the tests that I’m offering to get them.

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OP, no one, regardless of their vaccination status, should be gathering indoors, unmasked, without testing. You know this to be true. The family dynamic of your parents always choosing your brother existed before COVID, and now, you are seeing what lengths they will go to in order to continue catering to his wishes. They will now risk the health and safety of the entire extended family. That hurts, I am sure. Unfortunately, Omicron doesn't care about your or your brother's feelings.

Sit this one out and maybe tell your parents exactly why. That you've always bent to your brother's wishes even when it was inconvenient for your family because you do value the relationship. But now, that they've made it clear that they are unwilling to take a simple nasal swab for that is recommended by all legitimate health experts before gathering right now, simply because brother doesn't want to, so this is a hard line for you. You hope they have a wonderful holiday, but you are unable to attend under the circumstances.

Your brother probably feels sick and doesn't want to swab because he knows he is positive. Stay far, far away from them. [/quote]

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