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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, assuming that you're not a troll (or actually the husband)...

Being charitable here, it sounds like you and he are stuck in a bad cycle. Again, I'm giving your story a lot of benefit of the doubt here, but ASSUMING everything you said was accurate...

-You are generally frustrated, maybe at a boiling point now, about the amount of things on your plate, and he is not really contributing and he is perhaps being passive-aggressive. Perhaps purposefully blowing things off because he knows you will do them yourself, eventually. Also [b]PERHAPS[/b] he has ADHD or some such, which isn't an excuse, but an explanation and might be helpful in determining a manageable strategy.

-AND. You are now micromanaging. He didn't do something for the household* yesterday and it stuck in your craw, so you are ready to pounce when he seems to be wasting time today.

-Even if he's generally a jerk, I don't blame him for his response (your title) because your monitoring his every second is not only disproportionate, but totally ineffective, even counterproductive.

-You are frustrated, and (again giving you the HUGE benefit of the doubt) you are justified in being frustrated. But you're having a tantrum at this point because you are unable to control him. Nothing good can come of this.

-Maybe there is no amount of calm problem-solving and meditation that will actually produce a good result for your family, which means you have to make some choices. But it doesn't sound like anything productive is even being attempted eight now.

*I almost said "for you!" But that just shows how ingrained the sexism is.[/quote]

Sorry, meant to say he MIGHT have ADHD, not that he does![/quote]

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