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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the core complaint is that you didn't give as much of grandma than that is rude and he should cut it out.

If the core complaint is that you gave more to your blood nieces and nephews than to the step nieces and nephews than you're in the wrong.

It is hard to tell from your post because the kid being step or not is irrelevant if he first scenario is true. [/quote]

I see what you're saying, he's the first nephew/grandchild. His (blood)brother just turned 1, and got a lot of stuff babies get for 1 year olds so it's tough to compare. I don't remember giving the 1 year old anything substantial (finger paint, board books, etc.)

Yeah, I'm realizing I should of said something when it happened, so now if I stop gifting him and continue to gift his brother it will look horrible.

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Dude, he's 10. 10 year olds can be rude. It is your (and your brother's) job as trusted adults in his life to teach him manners. Not to teach him that family will cut him off if he makes a misstep. I would tell your brother about it and ask him what he thinks and emphasize that you're not trying to treat them differently and have your brother talk to him.

But he's 10. So get over yourself and act like an adult who cares about him. Keep showing him that you care, but don't endorse his rudeness. It's not that complicated. The step designation here is irrelevant. A 10 year old was rude, that should be addressed. That is the conflict. Step/bio/whatever, the conclusion here is the same no matter what.[/quote]

As a parent, its on the parents.   There would be serious consequences if my 10 year old said that.  And, they know better.[/quote]

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