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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We hired a senior level guy that never brought up his divorce or kids until he had the offer.  He then brought it up as if the kids were juniors in Hs and this was all temporary..
Anyhow.
This was before Covid and he had his wife keep the kids since they actually had 6-8 more years of schooling to graduate and flew back and forth 5 hours once or twice a month to spend weekend time plus some vacations. 
I assume he must like remote working since he can see them more easily now. He always brought a different online date to the company or coworker parties. Prob had bicoastal girlfriends too. [/quote]
Why are you implying he should have brought up his family situation before the offer?[/quote]

No one has to.

But we all know that when he finally did he lied about his kids ages, and the reality of it is they redid the custody agreement to the ex wife and he relocated.

So OP can pitch it to her Ex as she’s so all the hard work and childcare plus make more money for the kiddos. [/quote]

I’m not tracking this at all. Nobody is required to disclose family information during the interview process, and it is highly illegal to ask or discriminate due to children. If you chose not to hire him because he was divorced with kids, you would have been in legal trouble. These sorts of practices are what keep women out of the workforce, either companies won’t hire them because they have children, or they won’t hire fathers unless there is a SAHM to handle the kids so it doesn’t interfere with dad being on call 24/7.

If I were you, I’d reconsider working for a company with such a lack of ethics. [/quote]

I am also interested in the chat subplot. Was this a non-profit also? The guy doesn't sound like a great dad or ex husband, but can the PP please explain more why he should have shared this family information before he was hired (or even after)? How would he have even done so- interviewers shouldn't be asking questions that intentionally open this up. [/quote]

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