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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have kids? Does he?

Do you want kids?

If you go, try to listen more than talk. Make him do most of the talking. You want to know what he really feels. You don’t want him to just parrot what you say.[/quote]

OP: I have kids. He does not. He told me he's indifferent about having his own kids; he's more interested in finding the right partner.[/quote]

FYI. PP here. I man told me that last year after 7 months of dating. He told his family about me and then he broke up with me because a divorcee with kids was not acceptable. You should be talking about if this is going to be a problem (I did have that convo many times and he insisted it was not a problem...and then it was.) Just be warned about this possibility.[/quote]

Interesting. How old are both of you? Is he from a different culture?[/quote]

Both early 40s. Yes, he was from a different culture but insisted it did not matter...I hesitated dating for this reason and I thought I vetted it out because of my intense questioning about it early on. However, even people who are American could have a hard time if their families are traditional and don't want baggage for their son. When it came down to it, he would not integrate me into his exended family life because I was not "acceptable." Yes, he loved me. No, ultimately, it did not matter. [/quote]

OP: that's really tough. Is he Indian? I ask because I have dated Indian men before and the divorce stigma is very real.[/quote]

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