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OP, you should take the question to a doctor because on this forum you will get a lot of knee-jerk pro-weed responses, as you already see. There are people here who will swear there is no such thing as being addicted to weed, but yes, there is such a thing. Your wife is clearly self-medicating and doing it all day long so she is never fully the self she would be without the weed in her system.

https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/research-reports/marijuana/marijuana-addictive
https://www.healthline.com/health-news/marijuana-addiction-rare-but-real-072014#Who-becomes-addicted-to-marijuana-and-why?

Posters here will insist that if it makes her feel good and she's able to work, she's fine. But it's not fine because it creates problems in her marriage. And the fact you have a teen who is defending mom's weed use is beyond troubling (read up about the impact when teens smoke weed--it affects their brain development in a big way and can have lasting effects, none good; and you can assume your teen is smoking or will smoke weed, since mom is modeling it for her all day, every day, and it's right there in the house.)

Your wife is choosing weed over you; over her kid; over any attempt to get at WHY she needs to smoke constantly. This isn't recreational use; this is "I need this substance to get through my day, all day long." That would be a red flag if the substance were wine, whiskey, opioids, and yes, even other forms of things like CBD gummies or whatever. When it's "need" and not recreation, and when it upsets the supposedly most important person in the user's life and the user does not care at all--it's a problem. Though folks here will insist it's just fine.

You need to figure out what happens next. I couldn't be married to someone who prioritized a substance (any substance) over the marriage and the family. I would at least attempt first to get that person help to see that the use, while appearing "helpful" and appearing to make her "function better," is actually self-medication for underlying issues the weed cannot treat. Maybe start with calling here:
https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
The line deals with family members of people with substance use disorders. They can start to steer you to some resources. People posting here will only promote weed as beneficial, which it can be in narrow circumstances, but they don't want to believe it can be addictive and can mask mental health issues.[/quote]

I don't think her weed use is fine. In fact it would probably be a divorce event for me. But OP seems utterly unempathetic and nasty in his posts here, while at the same time coming across like he is helpless. He is also a parent to his teen, for instance, yet posts like his wife is the only parent.

It is hard for me to believe his wife is entirely in the wrong here. She probably does have an addiction issue, but I also suspect that she will substantially ease up on her pot use when she isn't living with OP.[/quote]

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