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[quote=Anonymous][quote]As for what friends say.. 
1. I can come across as intimidating as I am not very needy. I am very independent, emotionally strong, and self-confident and this makes it seem like I don't really need someone. 
2. I am a bit too intellectual - I get told I need to follow my heart, express emotions more rather than reasoning everything through from every perspective. 
3. I don't feel strong physical attraction / sexual chemistry very easily - I need intellect and character as well as looks to get turned on. Not many guys seem to really do that for me. I have a hard time dating guys I am not attracted to in the hopes attraction will grow. 
4. I am okay / comfortable being single so don't put a lot of effort into meeting someone. [/quote]

This cracks me up, OP - this may very well be true for you.  But it's a pretty well-used refrain - basically, what they said (or what you heard them say, which may or may not be the same thing) is that you're so awesome that it's hard finding someone who is comfortable with your level of awesomeness. It's like in a job interview, when asked for your biggest flaw, and people always say a "flaw" that emphasized how great they are.  "I'm so focused on the job that sometimes I forget to get things filed away int eh right place" sure sounds better than, "I'm a lazy fuck who can;t be bothered to organize my life even a little."

As I said, this may be true for you.  But looking back on the dating years, people rarely have a hard time finding someone because they're TOO great and TOO fantastic.  But some honest self-reflection, and some friends who will tell you the unvarnished truth, might come in handy.  [/quote]

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