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[quote=Anonymous]Ignore the awful people, don't know what they get out of posting mean things like that but they can go sit with their sticks up their asses with enjoy their perfect children.

Middle school is a rough transition. I'm sure there are kids who just chug along and take it all in stride, but adolescence is hard (13 and 14 are THE WORST) and changing schools is hard and the pandemic is hard and its no wonder kids are melting down. Adults are melting down all over the place, people are quitting their jobs right and left! But we don't let the kids quit.

I got two boys through middle school, one before the pandemic and one during and....yeah, I get it. Two things that helped (besides ADHD meds, including an afternoon booster for one -- neither of them needed meds until 5th/6th grade but it saved all of our lives in middle/high school) were an executive skills coach--which is like a tutor but not for subject matter, for organization--and a non-home place to do homework-- we used Lindner on Lee Highway.

Both are $$ but we found that doing it for a year made a difference and we wished we had sucked it up and done it earlier with each kid. And both resisted (e.g., hated it) but after a while -- although they would never say so to us -- were calmer and happier because they were less stressed and getting better grades so confidence and self-esteem were back to normal. It also lets you just be a parent and not a taskmaster or teacher--part of it is they don't want to listen to mom, but they will still listen to other authorities. And you'll have more energy and patience for dealing with the regular adolescent stuff.

We also found that sometimes a subject matter tutor--lots of APS teachers tutor after hours, online, and the schools will send you a list--can help if a kid is stressed out because of one or two classes. If they "don't get" the way a certain teacher teachers, which happens in middle school, they are adjusting to having multiple teachers in multiple subjects--having a tutor help them untangle the one subject they are struggling in can also help them be less stressed overall and make the rest of their work go easier because they don't have math or English or whatever hanging over their head all the time. 
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