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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean I think the current 60-70+ year old crowd is famous for remembering themselves as PERFECT parents. My parents raised us by yelling ALL THE TIME. While they never hit or anything, we were legit scared for the screaming so we were very docile children, we never expressed our feelings, we never asked - can you buy x - even though they certainly had the $$$ for any small toy type of requests. To hear them tell it now, they NEVER yelled at us, not once. And we ALWAYS talked to them about our feelings - uh lol - no we didn't because if you so much as said something even something positive like "maybe I'll be a dr when I grow up" - you'd hear, you probably won't, it's not that easy, hard work isn't enough to be a dr blah blah, instead of just encouraging a 14 year old's dream.[/quote]

This but our parents hit.  (we'd hit them back as we got to be teens)

I don't remember my parents ever saying I love you, hugging us or buying anything extra.  We never asked for anything as it was always we couldn't afford it when they could (they both worked in high paying jobs).  The screaming fights were constant.  I always hid in my room when I got home.  I did all the housekeeping and cooking in high school.[/quote]

PP here - it's infuriating. Sorry for what you went thru. Yep no I love yous or hugs in my home either.

They definitely had $, were UMC for the time but yep if we rarely did ask for anything "extra" they'd never buy it, would scream at us for asking, but also wouldn't allow us to work for it; so no car in HS because they wouldn't buy it (ok I get that) but nope you're also not allowed a summer job or after school to try to save up. YET to hear them tell it now, oh you never even asked for a car!? Uh are you delusional I begged for a car or to be able to work for a car!? And now they'll go around being so "proud"/happy for their younger nieces/nephews buying their kids new cars in HS and if you say anything about it - you never asked for a car; I never knew you wanted a car; what would YOU have done with a car (bc you were a loser but niece's kid who I see once in 5 yrs who lives 5 states away oh he's going places!?). The gaslighting is amazing. [/quote]

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