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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Imagine living in a world where [i]so many[/i] different family dynamics are accepted and praised, and where we full-on encourage people to make their own families, but we still vilify step-moms, even if the "real mom" is unwilling or unable to actually mother the children.  :hunf:  Some of the people on this thread should be ashamed of themselves. I'm guessing a lot of you must have kids with step-moms that they love and this post is bringing out a bit of your personal insecurities.[/quote]

I am a mother and a stepmother.  My DSD’s mother had a lot of issues and I am 150% sure I was a better parent to her for many of the years after I met her dad, but I would never presume to diminish the title of mother from the woman who is actually her mother.  I also believe that more than two people can be loving parents to a child and that no one has to tussle over the titles.  I mothered her at times and I love her always and am her stepmother always.  For the years that her mother was obsessed with a drunk loser who became a heroin addict and essentially ignored and neglected her daughter completely, she did not suddenly become “bio mom”.  She was her mother.  Troubled, obsessed, misdirected, and a terrible parent.  But still mother.  And now she is a much better mother because she is in a better place.  [/quote]

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