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[quote=Anonymous]I really underestimated how much time I’d have to spend with my ILs. And I was living with my DH for years before we got married. But you just cannot fathom what it means to marry into a family and have to see them regularly for the rest of your life. In my case, it doesn’t help that I intentionally distanced from my own family and only see them once a year, if that. But my ILs want us to visit every couple months. It feels like such an imposition. We only get so much vacation time and they expect us to dedicate so much if it to them, and then we go and they can’t even bother to be nice to us. They are rude and demanding and then in three weeks are like “are you coming here for [insert any possible excuse for a visit]?”

Also, my MIL was very possessive if my DD when she was born and it disturbed me. She claimed I was breastfeeding her “too much” in order to deprive my MIL of chances to hold her. She made nasty comments about me when I was just a few weeks post partum because she was jealous (she never had a girl). It got better but I never forgot how she treated me back then. That’s when I realized I wasn’t really a person to her. She us always surprised when I have feelings or basic needs like being tired or hungry. It annoys her. [/quote]

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