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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I met my MIL when I was 15.  My husband snd I got married at 22.  We are both 54.  I have never had cross words with her.  Not one time in all those years.  She isn’t perfect.  She makes me crazy sometimes.  We live 3 miles from my in-laws so we see them a lot.  I’m sure I do things that make her crazy as well.  She is my husband’s mother.  She is my children’s grandmother.  I call her “mom” and she treats me like a daughter.  She can be mean sometimes.  She drinks more than she should.  She has self-esteem issues, big time.  But I love her.  She is family.

I hope my DILs speak kindly about me.  I’m not perfect either.  I can be a little OCD and high strung.  I’m sure I drive them nuts without meaning to.  At first I loved them because they loved my boys. Now I love them because they are part of our family.  And they are both pretty damn amazing.

The reason so many people have issues with their MIL is simple -  It’s competition.  Once you learn to drop your end of the rope, you’ll find things are much easier.  I don’t need to be right all the time. Peace is more important. [/quote]

Your exception actually proves the point that others are making.You were literally a child when you met your mother in law, so many of her quirks and idiosyncrasies were normalized for you at a pretty early age. Most people (especially in this area) don’t meet their in-laws until they are well established as adults themselves so it can be much harder to embrace strangers as family and adapt to the “daughter law mentality” later in life when you are more set in your own ways.[/quote]

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