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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All your comments as are so helpful.  I'm rereading them and also exploring the book recommendations.  I do think she is slower to mature than say I was as at her age.  She was a dramatic teenager but calmed down somewhat by 17  18.  Still prone to high emotions, empathetic but dramatic.  Very different than me.  I'm more even keel calm steady, type.  Granted I've got decades on her so that comes with age too.

She asked me about graduating in the early 1990s from college and my first job etc.  She asked me how I knew deep inside that my first job offer was the right fit.  I laughed and said I knew right away BC the rent was due in three weeks.  She looked shocked.  But even after I had graduated I did not move home for various reasons and had to land something asap.

I do think tik tok and social media makes it worse. They get stuck in their own echo chamber.  She told me she despises capitalism and wanted to move to Scandinavia.  She said she doesn't like materialism as she orders things from Amazon on her iPhone.

I grew up in a wealthy EU country (Switz) with socialism type programs and high taxation.  I explained to her that the Piper is always paid and I went through taxation rates with her and the cost of free everything. She was shocked and doesn't quite believe it.  She thinks there is some far off land filled with beautiful people living in beautiful houses and not paying for much of everything.  One of her side gigs here they took out taxes and she was mad.  I told her that if she lived in Denmark her tax rate would have been triple.  She said there is a new way coming and we will not be slaves anymore.  Whatever.[/quote]

Switzerland is so beautiful but also so incredibly rigid (we lived there for some years). Does your daughter have Swiss citizenship? The Swiss are so particular about EVERYTHING that it might be good for her to visit her country of heritage and appreciate how much more rigid things could have been for her growing up.

One of my favorite bumper stickers ever was “Quick, hire a youth while they still know everything.”

Life will knock a lot of these unrealistic expectations out of her. But you still have to build a relationship with her based on who she is today so I would approach with gentle compassion and humor ….[/quote]

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