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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH cheated extensively.  I did not “overlook” it; I viewed it as the red flag it was.  He asked me to remain in the relationship, and I agreed if he got extensive individual therapy, went to AA and ended the infidelities.  He could not, so I stopped sleeping with him and when I was ready, I kicked him out.

You may consider that “overlooking”.  I do not. [/quote]

My best friend stayed, but certainly did not overlook it.  When she found out, she kicked her DH for a couple weeks.  He went into individual therapy twice per week, did group therapy for awhile too, quit social drinking/all drinking, etc.  He changed a lot and addressed his problems.  He switched to WAH. There is 100% transparency and he picked up the slack on the home front.  He’s now the one that grocery shops, plans meals, etc.  She didn’t ask him for any of it.  He took this all on by himself.  They are doing great now.  But, only I know what happened.  She didn’t tell anyone else and she was a total mess emotionally upon finding out because it was a complete blind-side, one of those great matches, happy couples pp talk about.

So- one might think just because the betrayed partner didn’t leave that they are over-looking it.  In all cases I know, it’s understood if it ever happened again- it would be over.  There is no blind eye being turned.[/quote]

+100

Staying does NOT mean it’s being overlooked.  In fact, some are actively staring it in the face every waking moment.  Consequences, change and all.  [/quote]

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