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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tell her that you need the kitchen because you're preparing Thanksgiving.  If she wants to make a pie or something on Wednesday, carve out some time for her.  If she wants to pick a different day that week to make dinner, set the timeline in advance.  But you have to do some expectation setting here, you can't just sign for all her deliveries and say nothing to her announcements about how much she's looking forward to cooking all week and then just fume about it when it happens.[/quote]

Agreed. You need to deal with this now. Or DH is in charge of resetting the kitchen to its prior state by Weds night for you to cook on Tgiving. [/quote]

I would do this. Just tell her the fridge is full already, plus you’ll need to be in the kitchen prepping, etc. But you do need to say something now if she’s made her expectations clear.

But OP, I get it, I really do. It’s not just about dirty dishes. It’s about having her piles of crap stacked up around the kitchen for a week. It’s about the drawer of tea towels completely upended because instead of reaching in and grabbing one, she rifled through them and then just shoved them back in. It’s about flour caked around the crevices of a brand new faucet. Cooking sherry dribbled down the face of a cabinet; grease splattered against the stove back splash. And the odds that she or your DH are actually going to clean it to anywhere close to the way it was when they showed up are less than zero.

And not only that, but it sounds like she’s doing it for the specific purpose of “breaking in the kitchen.” Not because she wants to cook family favorites or because she’s helping with thanksigivng. But because there is a new pristine kitchen that she wants to … what? Put her mark on? Make it less pristine? How else do you interpret “break in”? Breaking something in is literally about taking the polish off, making it less new, etc.And if you are not the owner of whatever this new thing is, then it’s rude to expect that you get to break it in. The owner is the one that gets to enjoy using it in its new and completely untarnished condition.  [/quote]

This !! In my new kitchen that I suffered through renovating or saved for years to buy. It would be overstepped a boundary for me. I remember when I got my first new car and took a friend for a drive. His kids banged their filthy feet all over the back of the front seats. Not cool !![/quote]

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