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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am open to it but I worry about STDs, honestly. [/quote]

DP. This, and emotionally I think at most I could handle one other serious relationship. I wouldn’t be interested in playing the field. But exploring another relationship deeply, that seems like it could be good if no one involved had jealousy.[/quote]

I posted that DH and I swing, but I think another serious relationship would be hard. What would you do if they got seriously ill or died?  Would you expect your spouse to support you in your grief?  Would you visit them in the hospital with their wife and children or extended family present?  
I had a FWB as a young woman, and I engaged in threesomes with his fiancée, then wife.  He was military and was killed in Afghanistan.  His wife didn’t want me at the memorial (of course), and I had to deal on my own.  It was hard.  And I wouldn’t even describe that as a serious relationship.

Or what if you just break up?  Breaking up is painful. Who would you talk to about it?  Your friends?  Your spouse?  
And even good things could be hard.  What if they have a big event in their lives that they want to celebrate with you, but it conflicts with something in your family?

I feel like I am already pulled in so many directions as a working mom and wife.  I couldn’t add another one.  [/quote]

Just handle it like closeted gay people handled it for so long. You go to the hospital as a “friend.” You send flowers and cards or whatever instead of showing up in person. There’s a precedent for all this.[/quote]

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