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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The families you describe have babies and preschoolers. Your kids are in elementary. They assume they don’t have anything in common with you. Also do you remember what it is like to have a toddler? Even if you do remember not being able to make chit chat because you need to closely supervise a child at your neighbors non-childproof deck/yard, this is a pandemic. We barely saw people we know and like for over a year, we were going to strike up new friendships.

I think you are just out of step with the neighbors kids/life wise. We lived next to a family with kids the same age for 5 years and played with them like 3 times. Now we live on a cul de sac with several families and our kids play every day. [/quote]

I’ll add on that 
1. The HOA membership is hurting you socially
2. The neighbors might think the gift basket is from the HOA, not you. 
3. The other moms will be interested in you once their kids start school and you have activity / camp info to share
4. Your kids will be more sought after once they are babysitting age.

One way I’ve met moms is to plan events without kids. Join a running group, invite people to have coffe and donuts after school drop off on the first or last day, invite moms over for a glass of wine on your deck.  The key for us has been to make it breezy and impromptu. We have a fire pit and my husband and O might know all week we are doing s’mores with the kids Friday night - but I’ll post on our neighborhood FB group at 4pm “just decided to make s’mores tonight. We have plenty of marshmallows if you want to stop by. Or I’ll invite some moms from my older kid’s grade over on a Thursday night, but I send the invite on Monday like “if you can make it, cool, just a casual gathering”.

I think when it seems like a pre-planned party, people overthink it. When it’s short notice, people squeeze it in if they can and don’t feel pressure if they can’t. I hosted 3-4 casual events before another mom planned one for her house. [/quote]

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